When I met Mike in 2012, he had already planted his, then, hobby vineyard. I knew nothing about wine, so the fact that I was dating someone that was educated in viticulture, worked as a winemaker and had his own vineyard was super intimidating to me.
Together we built the business and opened the doors in Fall 2014. It went from hobby to business overnight. Although the first few years were taxing on us, the winery has become quite successful, award-winning, and well-known Ontario winery –Traynor Vineyard.
What’s interesting is that even though I knew nothing about wine, I grew to enjoy the vineyard life, and that’s because I love my husband and want to embrace his passion. I want to support him.
Our industries, love and wine, are both very romantic. Although we are in totally different businesses, we share the view that bringing happiness to those around us is important.
Today, February 7th, Mike and I are celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary. We’ve done so much together that it feels like it’s been decades, but I wouldn’t want to spend the ups and downs with anyone else. On the hard days, because those exist, I think back to warm moments in our relationship and feel the feels.
We regularly share our feelings and have had many difficult conversations dealing with past trauma and healing. We schedule date days and often push one another out of our comfort zones.
I’ve heard people say, “You two are perfect for each other,” and I believe that we are a great match, but we’ve worked at it. When we met, we were two broken people that needed comfort, healing and support. The first few years of our relationship were not easy, and the tough times helped remind me that relationships are hard work. Still, a really incredible bond can be built and nurtured with open communication and support.
Whether you are single, in a new relationship, or have been married for years, I remind you not to take a relationship for granted and to show up every day with the intention to make it work. Be open and honest with yourself, listen to your needs and desires and make your partner aware. Practice healthy communication, and know that a relationship involves two active participants. And, if times are tough, and it’s hard to do it on your own, ask for help. Contact a counsellor.
Finding a partner that you are stronger with, someone that supports you, encourages you and is there to hold your hand, always, because they are proud of the big and small steps, is everything.