There was a time in my life when everything felt like it was crashing down on me. I was 24 years old and had just broken up with a boyfriend that after learning he was unfaithful. I was feeling down in the dumps, unfulfilled in life and in my career. I knew I was in a transitional period but wasn’t sure which way I was going.
It’s hard to have any kind of positive movement when you simply feel crappy. Your outlook is negative, you don’t exude your usual warmth or joy. Ultimately, this makes it difficult to connect with people. The vibes you send out are the same ones that come back to you. In this state of mind, all you’re going to attract is more disappointment.
The turning point
I was at a family event, seated next to my mother, who was excited to share with me a book she had just read. It was called Feel the Fear … and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. My mom found it to be expressive, life-altering, and incredibly insightful. I knew that I needed a boost and figured I would pick myself up a copy. I’m someone who usually has a hard time getting through a book without losing interest, but I found that as I flipped through the pages, the corners of my lips turned up, my passion was resurfacing, and I could feel a growing sense of excitement.
This book and its words of support gave serious momentum to my next steps. I was in dire need of support from someone or something, and this book gave me what I was looking for.
So, when the ex-boyfriend came back around asking for a reconciliation, I proudly stood my ground. After all, I was better off on my own than with the heavy weight of someone else’s demons darkening my shining star.
This book provided me with such amazing strength, a strength that I didn’t even know I had. I frequently came back to its wisdom. It was almost like going out for coffee with a friend. It just felt nice.
Like a warm hug on a cold day
Throughout my years, through all of the trials and errors, I have often thought of that book as my support system, even though I haven’t flipped through its pages in years. I have mentioned to others how reading this book represented a major turning point in my life and have recommended it to others who needed the support and encouragement to keep reaching for their dreams.
It really is the simple things in life, like a conversation with a dear friend or a really good book, that can make the biggest impact on a person’s life.
What are some of the most surprising things that have changed the way you think and act?