I’m going to make a somewhat controversial statement:
Divorced men are the best ones to date.
Wait right there – before you pass judgment, just hear me out for a second. Nobody enters a relationship or marriage hoping that it’s going to end, but sometimes—and there could be a hundred different reasons a relationship does not succeed—the couple decides to part ways, moving on in different directions.
Nobody can predict the future and nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors, so you simply can’t cast blame. After all, we’ve all made mistakes, right? If you expect others to give you the benefit of the doubt, you should be prepared to reciprocate.
He’s not afraid to commit
Do you want to know the best thing about dating a divorced man? He’s already committed once before! While he may be hesitant to jump into another serious relationship right away, he’s choosing to give it a chance, and he really wants to get to know you!
Men look at relationships far differently than women do. Women love nurturing, they love being a partner, and they hope and long to find their perfect match in life. It’s not that men don’t feel the same, they just don’t go to the lengths that women do in order to find the relationship that they want. Could it be that men are waiting for serendipity?
Men are from mars …
Even though men can “move on” from a relationship in as little as two days, it does not mean that they’re not feeling pain the same way that you do. They just process it differently. Instead of dealing with it and healing right away, they try to move on and replace those negative feelings with positive ones. They want to feel desired, they want to know that they haven’t completely “lost it”, and they want to just get out there and see if they can still capture the attention they crave from women. A man going through a divorce experiences at least as much pain and heartache as we women do. They just deal with it differently.
Being open and willing to date someone that’s already been married can give you a better sense of what type of relationship is out there for you. It’s nice to know that the man you’re dating has already committed to someone before you – they gave a “forever life” with somebody a chance once before, after all, so in all likelihood, they are not averse to doing it again.
Taking it slow is never a bad thing
If your divorcee date seems nervous about taking things to the next level with you – whether that means introducing you to his friends, his children, or maybe you’re talking about moving in together – how about having an open and honest conversation with him about his deeper thoughts, feelings, and fears? Instead of beating yourself up and trying to think about what you can say to them to offer support, keep in mind that it’s not always about you. There’s no better way to show that you care than to listen to what they have to say.
The best things in life are often not what you envision
In the big scheme of dating and relationships, it’s possible you never saw yourself dating someone that had already committed to somebody else. But don’t let it hold you back from getting to know this person – after all, he may just be the love of your life. Don’t let your pre-conceived expectations get in the way of what you thought your life and love was going to be like.
Sometimes, letting your life unfold organically is the best thing you can do. Happiness and love are in the cards for you, just don’t hold yourself back by placing unnecessary limitations on the process. As a very wise person once said, “Leap, and the net will appear.” Truer words are seldom spoken.
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